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At one time in the not-so-distant past, weddings were as predictable as clockwork. White dress. Black tux. Standard ceremony and vows. Rice throw. Clanking cans tied to your car. All topped off with a white-icing cake and the hokey pokey/funky chicken/hava nagilah/insert traditional song here.

No longer is this the case. Weddings now run the gamut from very traditional and orthodox ceremonies to getting hitched while base jumping or snowboarding. Because there is now so much possibility in how you can plan and personalize your wedding, it makes it difficult to know when to break tradition and when to stick to what people know. Here are a few things to consider when deciding how traditional you would like to be in your wedding planning.

Who will pay for your wedding?
Up until the recent past, in many cultures the bride’s family shouldered the burden (or had the privilege, depending on your point of view) of paying for the wedding. Although some cultures still recognize traditional modes, this is no longer a hard-and-fast rule in the U.S. Who pays can be a very sensitive topic, as some parents may take offense if they are “expected” to shoulder the debt, especially in these hard economic times. However, before the topic of who will pay is broached, it is best to establish a general wedding budget so everyone involved is on the same page.

If parents are going to pay for the wedding, it’s good to sit down with both sets of parents and discuss who wants to or is able to pay for what; this can alleviate any misunderstandings or resentments down the road. Conversely, more and more brides and grooms are paying for some portion of their wedding, if not the whole show. If this is your path, it’s best to develop a savings plan along with your budget and start banking that money ASAP.

Who plans the wedding?
Again, in the past the bride has usually been the one who mails out the invitations, chooses the theme, picks the vendors and generally plays wedding planner and overall wedding czar. But this is also changing in many quarters, as grooms now are pitching in and sharing the wedding planning load with their brides. A good rule of thumb here is to figure out what discreet tasks are required in planning your wedding and then divide them up evenly, making sure one person isn’t stuck doing all the boring stuff. In essence, you’re each a “co” wedding planner.

What will you wear?
White dresses and black tuxedos are still fairly popular, but many engaged couples are now choosing a different path in what they will wear on their big day. Some are scaling it back, going with regular suits and ties (in a variety of colors) and more modern wedding dresses with less lace and cleaner lines. Yet others are going more casual, especially for outdoor and destination weddings. And even others are opting for themed weddings. What’s right for you? That’s completely up to what you and your spouse-to-be prefer.

Ceremony
Historically, the type and formality of a wedding ceremony was often dictated by your religious preference and the orthodoxy of your church. Some religions and denominations still have fairly strict standards for a wedding ceremony, while others allow you to customize your ceremony and write your own vows. In a growing trend, more couples are choosing to wed outside of a church setting, with some sticking to a religious ceremony and others choosing a legal or secular ceremony.

How orthodox or informal your ceremony should be is up to you, but remember that this is your day and should reflect your personalities and values as a couple. And although your families and friends will certainly influence your decision, make sure the decision is based on what you want and not solely on what others want. The best advice for planning a wedding is as simple as this: follow your heart, and your family and guests will eventually follow.

Reception
The reception is your time to celebrate and share your joy with family and friends, so it should be as much an expression of you as a couple as you can make it. Don’t feel bound to old traditions if they don’t fit you. For example, if you feel awkward tossing a bouquet or garter or you have only a few unmarried guests, then drop these from the activities. If you want to include more people than just the best man and maid-of-honor in giving a toast, then by all means ask them. If you want a DJ that plays country music or a band that only does Grateful Dead covers, then book them. It’s your night … live it up and have fun, and everyone else will follow suit. Remember, it’s your party, and everyone will take your lead.

Jeff Kear is co-owner of My Wedding Workbook, the free online software that makes wedding planning simple and easy. It provides all the tools brides need to manage every wedding detail, including a <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href=" http://www.myweddingworkbook.com/features-guest-planner.html " target="_blank">wedding guest list software and a <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href=" http://www.myweddingworkbook.com/features-rsvp.html " target="_blank">wedding RSVP and gift tracker / manager. Copyright My Wedding Workbook 2009 All rights reserved

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